Today’s a hard one for me. This is not an anniversary of something bad or anything like that, just a bad day (so far).
I have written in previous posts about my little one, who is adopted, and some of his issues. I have not gone into the detail as it seems like it’s best, for him, to keep it in a overview rather then details. I still believe this is the best policy for our family in this case.
I just have to say that I am sad. He is so sneaky and can lie to my face with such ease that it hurts! I worry about his future at times. I know God is bigger than all of this and that our little one has had a rough time in the beginning years of his life, but I just hurt today!
I have no trust. I struggle to build it because it seems like he takes advantage of it every-time. As soon as I start to get some he smacks me down.
It’s just a period of time. I know it will get better. I know God can turn it around. I know God has a plan. You go through the valley before the mountain top. But right now, I just needed to write that I am sad.
Prayers always appreciated.
January 4, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Here’s a big hug! Hang in there Debi, I will pray for you.
January 4, 2008 at 10:07 pm
i know i’m not a mom.
and i know you’ve probably heard something to this sort before.
but i thought i’d offer a bit of encouragement.
my sister used to be awful about lying. lying about things that didn’t matter. like if she recorded a show on TV. or something to the sort. it was super frusterating, but the good news is that now. she’s grown up a little. (we’ll see how the teen years go.) but there was light at the end of the tunnel. as i’m sure there will be for your son!
you can count on my prayers. :]
January 5, 2008 at 12:30 pm
Jen – You are so sweet and I appreciate all your support!
Laura- Don’t ever discount yourself and your words of encouragment. You don’t always have to be a Mom to help. I appreciate your comment and I really do have hope some days are just better than others.
Today’s a better day
January 6, 2008 at 5:16 pm
Wow…That’s heavy.
I love that we go “through” the valley. We don’t “stay” in the valley. Hallelujah!
Praying for you and yours right now…
January 7, 2008 at 11:10 am
AMEN! That’s why we appreciate the mountain top so much..all the hard work and struggle to get there makes it that much worth it!
Thanks for the prayers!
Debbie
January 9, 2008 at 1:44 pm
As a teacher I COMPLETELY understand what you are saying. The world needs more patient people like you. Good for you for reaching out.
January 10, 2008 at 2:23 pm
We have a similar situation in our family and it is SO stressful. Always here if you need an ear
January 23, 2008 at 12:57 am
You commented on my blog about adoption a week ago and I just got on over to say hello. I know it is hard, attachment issues can open a whole can of worms.
I’ve read about every book in the world and have the whole behavior system stuff down cold but that goes right out the door when dealing with a child that just isn’t grounded the way we expect one to be.
Have you consider trying a therapy called Theraplay? It’s really amazing for attachment issues or even just any child who has been through experiences/challenges. It has four aspects that can be adjusted for you and your husband’s individual relationships with the child.
If you find yourself still struggling, you might want to consider it.
Either way, hang in there. Pick your battles, count to 10 a lot and don’t ever threaten a consequence you can’t really do
May 14, 2008 at 11:00 pm
I found your blog while searching for other people who homeschool but are interested in adoption. You’ve done what we’re thinking about- adopting a special-needs child in the US. I vaccilate so much! Some times I want to intensely, some times I am afraid. I have four children of my own. What would happen to them? Would I have the patience? Could we stand the official scrutiny?
It sounds like you’re having a very challenging time. I don’t know… I just don’t know.
August 17, 2008 at 11:37 am
I know women who have had children taken away from them for no good reason.
I heard the mothers can not eat food , then read on adoption UK the children are the same . I can appreciate any child who has been traumatized by this removal. Also the adopted parent: the Gay Salt death case here in the UK . This adopted couple were destroyed by the non disclosure of medical evidence. please google open your ears and open your mind to were these children come from .
Some say they will never bond with anyone again.
I do not want details of how old or anything else .
I just know of a little girl whose family are hoping she comes home 1 day I know her name I know her face thousands now know what the closed courts done to her innocent parents.
The real parents no the caretakers who will play second best and never be a real parent as hard as they try .
I am trying to Campaign for adopted children to find a bone marrow donor/stem cell donor.
Do you get an option of storage of stem cell incase these children go on to be unfortunate to have a congenital hereditary disease or leukaemia?
This comes form the heart of a mother who has gone through the system which is out of control globally .
My son had leukaemia this is how I got involved nothing more.