For those of you  familiar with this blog you may know that I value volunteering.  So I wanted to share some ideas for this Valentine’s Day:

Singles and Married with no Children – Babysit for those that have young children

Married with Young Children – Help the Single Parents

Married with Older Children – Why not go to a Retirement Home or Widow/Widower

Whatever stage of life you are in see if there is a way to reach out to those around you.  Send a card or flowers to someone, take them out to eat, offer to babysit, send a single mom for a facial, bake a cake for a neighbor, throw a party for kids in a homeless shelter.  Ask around.  There are lots of people in need right now.  I bet it won’t be hard to find out who to help.  And you know what, you will have a heart full of flowers instead of a vase 🙂

Have a “Helping” Day!


So it’s been almost a month.  I am a bad blogger.  With the holidays and learning a new camera I have been a bad girl.

I will do a little run down for you:

– Our 12 days of Christmas was a great success.  We were able to help lots of people and have fun.  Our run down included: Helping a friend in need, donating toys, making cards for Veterans, helping at a Senior center, Salvation Army Angel Tree, wrapping presents for prison fellowship, helping scavenger hunt, random acts of kindness, cookies to those who work on Christmas, neighborhood trash cleanup. 

– We had an amazing Christmas.  And as a bonus I get the Wii Fit which I am so thrilled about.  Boy that thing can work ya!

-I couldn’t stay up for New Years Eve of course.  I am very sleepy lately.

– I am still wondering about homeschooling and everyday I go back and forth.  Heck moment by moment.

– Our little one is having a tough time and it’s been such a challenge to get him the help he needs.  Last night we told me he is still trying to figure out if we are a nice family.  Did I mention it’s been 5 years next month?

Well that’s a little bit of what’s been going on around here.  I am still trying to get my picture thing resolved and that has been a big reason why I have been absent.  I love to add me some pics.  I promise to be more faithful!

Have a “Promising” Day!

For those of you who have been reading for awhile, you may remember my 2007 12 Days of Christmas posts.  For those new, let me explain.

Our family celebrates the 12 Days of Christmas (prior to Christmas) by donating, serving, and/or volunteering on each day.  We pick different things for each day like wrapping gifts for the homeless or helping a friend in need.

Well tonight we will narrow down our choices and will be starting this weekend.  I hope you will join us.  If not for all 12 days, choose one.  Your children will get a LOT out of it!  My kids pass by the nursing home that we served homemade cookies to last year and always remember the residents there.  Even when we don’t pass by they still talk about all the wonderful things they were able to do.  It also gets all away from the “gimmes”.

Have a “Giving” Day!

No, you are not getting rid of me that easily.  I just have five more posts until my A-Z tips are done and my contest is over.  If you are new to my blog I am having a series of posts that are tips from A-Z.  If you link any of these tips on your blog, and let me know, I will enter you in my contest.  Check it out:


Today’s tip is V for Volunteer

I just got an email from my brother talking about how my niece (and happens to be named Virginia -coincidence I don’t think so!), who is 17, is taking her first mission trip to Mexico.  I am so proud of her.  I think she will be going to another country so full of amazing culture but will also learn about the extreme poverty that exists in other parts of the world.  She is already a beautiful child of God, and I think this experience will just bring her closer to God.

So today my tip is talk with your family, and pray, about a possible mission trip.  If your children are too young to go abroad, find something locally.  You can try your local church for ideas.  Here is some websites as well:


Action Without Borders www.idealist.org/kt

Habitat for Humanity www.habitat.org

Food for the Hungry (offers mission trips) http://www.fh.org/

Weekend Missions www.weekendmissions.com


Have a “Helping” Day!


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Alright, I have a love/hate relationship with Garage Sales!  I guess more hate than love though.  It seems like a good idea and then you start it and think “What was I thinking?”

Arizona, in my opinion, is not the best city for yard sales.  Friday is a popular day here but you just never know.  I really try to be realistic about prices but people will bargain when something is even marked 25 cents.  I am thinking “Really, that extra 10 cents is going to help you buy what?”  I guess it will get them another peice of clothing at another exhausted person’s yard sale.

None the less I resolve myself to trying to get a few things sold.  I researched prices and put them even below that.  Not too much sold.  It can be disappointing as we were doing this for charity.  If you didn’t see my earlier post you can check it out here: https://realworldmartha.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/garage-sale-with-meaning/  I was really wanting to do better but I have some people coming that I know could use the items and I will feel good if I can give them to someone I know needs them.

No real pics as I was busy getting everything setup and then waiting for people.  I really tried not to put too much energy and just bulked priced a lot of things like all clothes 25 cents.  But it still ends up to be work.  

So should I try one more day?  What do I put myself through this?  I have something wrong in my brain.  I guess it’s the optimistic side of me.  It will be better next time….yeah right (optimistic Debbie meets realistic Debbie)!

At least I  raised some money.  The monies that I did get will go to our child sponsorship.   Anything is better than nothing!


Debbie aka The Real World Martha(S)

Have you watched or are familiar with Oprah’s show “The Big Give”?  If you’re not it is a reality show competition that challenges the contestants to give to people in need that have been chosen.  For example, the first week the two person team was given $2500 and a picture of someone to help.  One person was a Mom of two little girls who’s husband had just been killed at work and afraid she was going to loose her home.  Another was a homeless Mom and her two teenage kids.  These were just a couple of the situations that they did on the first show.  I would highly recommend seeing it with your kids so they can see others in need and maybe get ideas on ways they can help.

So here’s my Big Give thought….do a “Big Give” with the tax money that is coming for most people in June (I believe).  When it was announced people were already spending the money.  Why not take some or all of that money and put it toward giving BIG?  See just how far you can take it.  We didn’t know it was coming before and there are SO MANY people in need.   Just look around your immediate community, and I don’t think you will have a problem finding someone that needs help.  So are you up for the challenge?

What if we could get this out to everyone we know and encourage them to “Give Big” as well?  Wouldn’t that be so AWESOME?  We could stimulate the economy and the HEARTS of people.  What could be better?  People can start thinking up ways now so that way when the money comes they are all set.

So here’s it is: 

  • Come up with a plan. 
  • Budget how much you want to do. 
  • Remember to not just give the money away but see how you can connect, spend the money on what’s needed, and use as many resources to make that money bigger. 
  • Get a team to work on the project together. 
  • Share the ” Big Tax Giveaway Challenge” with everyone. Send a email or post it on your blog.  Share it with your church, neighbors, friends, or organizations that you are involved with.

Let’s see how far we can get this.  I can’t wait to see what happens.  If you are a blogger, don’t forget to post about it if you do it.  And be sure to link back here for everyone to get motivated to be apart of this wonderful opportunity!

Have a “Give Big” kind of day!

As the weather warms up many people start to have garage sales.  It’s a great time to get ride of clutter and start fresh.  But what about a garage sale that earns money for your favorite charity or a family in need? 

Wouldn’t it be great to raise a bunch of money for your local food bank?  A family in the neighborhood going through a difficult time (please ask them ahead of time).  Or what about a youth group going on a mission trip?

You can also do this as a community event.  See if neighbors or friends are interested in doing the same.  Let people know who you are doing this for and they may not need to bargain as much.

If you do this, please make sure to post it and comment here so we can all read about it.

Let’s get in there and start today.  Have a cleaning and sorting kind of day 🙂

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