Back to the regular scheduled programming…..

My dare today is to give up on an area of disagreement that is really not that important.  I have thought of what I am going to give in to, if you will, for my little one, but am still working on my oldest. 

This is really valuable to evaluate what it is that there is conflict about and if it’s important.  So many times the conflict really isn’t going to matter in the long run.  So why is it then that it is so protected??  Ahhh, PRIDE, I forgot 🙂

Is there anything you could “give in” to?

Have a “Willing” Day!

It’s been so sad to not post like I hoped to.  I am still working on the Love Dare with my kids, and I wish I would have done regular updates however it’s been so crazy around here.  I am also doing a study at church on parenting teens (oldest is a pre-teen).  But this study is really for all parents.  Terrific!!!!

One of the thoughts that has struck me while doing both of these things is that, as Christian Parents, we are not to be ‘A’shamed or ‘D’issapointed with our childrens behavior. 

Now here me out if this sounds wrong to you.  God is not disappointed with us.  He disciplines us to get us where he wants us to be but He is never shocked, dissapointed, ashamed, etc!  So if we take on His traits as a Christian, shouldn’t we be the same way?

I always thought that a certain amount of shame, like a Moms look, you know “The Look”, was ok.; we joke about it don’t we?  Really it’s not part of building a child up with unconditional love (agape love).  That doesn’t mean that we won’t discipline a child or let them experience natural consequences, but that there is no shame in screwing up.  And if we all think about it, haven’t we screwed up a time or two ourselves?  So why would we be surprised they do?  Disappointed and shame is just a way of saying I am shocked that you did that cause I never have or would.

Have a “Shockless” Day!

Yesterday I couldn’t decide if I should go back and try to get missing assignments done or keep going.  I read the days assignment and felt God telling me to do today’s and catch up when I can.  How do I know it was from God?  Because it was hard for me to do it.

The assignment was to have a warm greeting in the morning.  How hard is that?  Well considering my oldest went to bed without even saying goodnight and my little one refuses to use the toilet (this is not a standard bed wetting issue).  I knew that I could get up and greet but do it warmly???

I really tried and it is amazing how much that effort really pays off.  At least for a little while.  My oldest is really struggling in his pre-teen years and is easily set off lately.  I helped him with his math and we were doing great and then he hit a roadblock and that was it for much of the day.  For awhile I was really struggling with my frustration level but God’s peace came over and we just went about our day no matter what he was doing.

My little one seemed to respond with a better gretting.  He is so closed off with his thoughts that you never know.  He is a serious people watcher and doesn’t share much.  I do try to encourage him as he has so many burdens (you can see from his actions) but he isn’t ready. 

Today I am to do a random act for both of them.  I usually make them fold their own laundry because of how they treat it after I fold it, but I did theirs today.  I don’t think they much notice but it changes my heart to do something unexpected with agape love.

Have a “Unconditional Loved” Day!

Yesterday I needed to ask 3 things that I do to irritate the other person.  In this case, my children.  We had company all day so I tried to figure a time for this and really wasn’t able to without it being awkward.  I am going to wait until there is a better time for this one.  And since I am doing both my children I have reduced the request to two each since I don’t wanna be depressed with 6 items about me this is annoying to them.

Today I move on to reacting to challenges in a loving manner.  So far, my oldest had a melt down, in school work, and I didn’t handle it the best.  I get worn out from his quick dissapointment and lack of resilance that I feel annoyed.  I need to work harder on this I see!!!!

I have been assigned to write down a list of areas in which I can add margin in my life (get the book to understand more).  Then I need to list any wrong motivations.  I might need extra paper 🙂

Have a “Work in Progress” Day!

There will be 40 of these????  Ok, so I realized we are not the movie!  First two days just ask you to be patient and kind.  No problem.  Well as I discovered, harder than it appears when you are with them ALL DAY LONG!!!! 

I feel like I am realizing just how much I need to shut up.  That’s from Day 1. 

Today is to combine the patience from Day 1 and display kindness for Day 2.  Easy as pie!

My oldest is actually the one I am working harder on right now then my little one.  I guess it’s good I am just doing this across the board.  But GOD GIVE ME STRENGTH!  He has had an extra special personality for me lately. 

This morning though I think he knew he was really just making his own life problematic.  We all were moving on.  He got with the program a little while the little one had messy pants before bed and wet sheets and jammies for me this morning.  Now this is not that he can’t get up.  This is the same kid stealing from us at night every chance so it’s a choice.  My house is constantly smelling and it’s a battle. 

For the kindness we went out to lunch.  I don’t think they felt like it was any big deal.  We did have a good time but I don’t think it was like WOW! 

I have noticed that I struggle with conditional treats/activity syndrome.  I don’t want to encourage misappropriate behavior so I withhold treats/activities and such but there is a time where they just need to get them no matter if they are good or not.  We get blessings from our Heavenly Father even when we are not.

This is a great process as I know the Lord is making me into what He needs me to be.  That doesn’t mean it isn’t painful though.

Have a “Painful” Day!  (It just may make you into something beautiful!)

If you want to participate in my month long contest, it’s easy, here’s how:

CONTEST ALERT:

Do you wanna participate in my month long contest (with weekly drawings)?  Of course you do.  Here are the rules:

1) Answer the weekly question in my comments below.  One entry is all I need.  You DO NOT need to comment everyday to be eligible…just once. 

2) POST about my contest on your blog.  I will need the direct link on my blog showing the post on your site. 

3) That’s it!!!!  Just wait to see if you are a winner of a week’s bounty of prizes.  Isn’t the EASY????

Let’s meet BrainScan Coffee (these names are so great from these ETSY shop owners).

Here’s her BIO:

I’m Alex Wrekk. I’m a 31 year old kid who is into all things DIY from making zines, roasting coffee & refinishing wood floors, to brewing beer and making treasures out of trash. I call myself DIY by Default because it feels like creating things and figuring out how to make things myself comes naturally to me. I’d like to thank my mother for instilling those values in me.

I have been making custom buttons since 2000. I used to work for Microcosm Publishing and through them I had the opportunity to make buttons for such people as The Bangles, The Dandy Warhols, the Yeah Yeah Yeahs and more. I now run my own little button business called Small World Buttons (http://www.smallworldbuttons.com) where I make custom buttons as well as my own catalog designs, making custom buttons on Etsy is basically a small extension of that.

I started roasting my own coffee in 2005. I started roasting for myself and giving some to friends… the friends started to offer to buy my coffee… then strangers offered to buy my coffee and it has grown from there. I roast the coffee the way that I like it and I hope you do to. I support Organic and Fair Trade coffee farms and I enjoy light roasts that really show the bean origin in flavor.

I make lots of other stuff too but most of it I don’t try to sell to folks like my beer or my food that everyone seems to like. I also make envelopes, hand bound books and notebooks, patches, stickers, and tea. My currents household project is working on planning my hummingbird garden for this spring and trying to tame my jungle of a yard!

I have very strong ethics regarding our planet and try to reuse materials or use recylced materials when possible. As for pricing items, I try to keep my affordable so that a person like myself would be able to purchase my items and hoefully love them as I have, “Priced for peers” is what I like to call it.

So up for grabs in the package for this week we will add some coffee to wake you up. And be sure to check out her ETSY store: http://www.etsy.com/shop.php?user_id=33977&section_id=5164527 and also here: www.MerriBee.etsy.com

Brainscan Coffee 3 pack of 8 OZ bags YOU PICKTHE COMBO

Question for Week 2 – Tell me about a random act of kindness in the last year that you have done or someone has done for you?  Please share about it in the comments and don’t forget to link the contest on your blog.

Have a “Brainy” Day!

Do you wanna participate in my month long contest (with weekly drawings)?  Of course you do.  Here are the rules:

1) Answer the weekly question in my comments that week.  One entry is all I need.

2) POST about my contest on your blog.  I will need the direct link on my blog showing the post on your site. 

3) That’s it!!!!  Just wait to see if you are a winner.

Today will be a DOUBLE FEATURE –

BETH MARIE 10 @ ETSY

http://www.etsy.com/shop.php?user_id=6062303

Hi to all,
My name is Beth, I’m 24 years old. I’ve been married to the love of my life and highschool sweetheart, Jeremy, for 4 years (been together 6 years). We have a beautiful daughter, who is almost 2 years old. She sure is handful sometimes but we love her so much!

I started sewing when my fiance (husband now) went to college in Wyoming for a year. I spent everyday with my grandma who taught me how to sew. She helped me make my first quilt for Jeremy and I in a week! Yeap a week, and since then i’ve been sewing like a crazy lady. I have made 6 king size quilts for me, i havn’t been able to part with the big projects i make. I also have made many, many purses/bags, potholders, placemats, table runners, and small quilts and wall hangings.

I started to scrapbook after Jeremy and I had our daughter. I have 4 12X12 scrapbooks of just her already! I fell in love with this hobby. It has turned into much more than just scrapbooking, i make cards, calanders, and much more. In the beginning of June 08′ i made 200 programs for my Brother-in-laws wedding, boy was that a task but i loved doing them.

So I guess you could say that i am very creative and love my two hobbies and someday i hope to have many more hobbies.

Beth will be offering up a set of gift tags.  Just in time for the holidays.  Won’t your packages look great?

CHRISTMAS gift tags/favor tags  handstamped  snowman and MORE set of 16

The other feature today is from ZADYBALL. http://www.etsy.com/profile.php?user_id=5536688

What is a ZADYBALL you ask?  I am glad you asked.

Here is one right now :   Hoots the Owl - ZadyBall(TM)

That is “Hoots” and he is a best seller with ZADYBALL.

Description
Meet Hoots. He’s looking for a good home. He’s a bit of a night owl, but he’s ready to play any time! Squeeze his adorable face, and he’ll squeak!

Make Zadyball™ your baby’s first toy! Zadyball™ is easy to grab and hold, soft to cuddle, and makes the perfect lovey!
Each Zadyball™ is made with 100% cotton, super soft flannel and stuffed with high loft poly-fil. A Zadyball™ is about 7 inches in diameter with 16 knotted strings, each about 1/2 inch wide and 5 inches long.
***100% MACHINE WASHABLE***

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What is a Zadyball™?
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A Zadyball™ is designed first of all with babies in mind. They are soft to hold and cuddle, and have lots of strings to grab and rub.
Lots of babies have a “lovey” and many times the item they pick has something for them to rub – whether it’s the corner of a blanket or the nose on a teddy bear. The knotted ends of the strings are great to fulfill baby’s need for something to rub!

Why Babies love them:
1. Easy to grab and hold on to from a very young age
2. Good for teething
3. Soft to cuddle
4. Knotted ends are very soothing to rub
5. Makes a great lovey

Why Toddlers love them:
1. Once a lovey, always a lovey
2. Soft to cuddle (everyone loves soft things!)
3. Easy to throw and catch, especially when you are just learning how

Why Mommies love them:
1. Babies love them and we love our babies!
2. Easy to clean, just throw in the wash!
3. Safe!
4. Soft enough that you don’t have to worry about things breaking or anyone getting hurt when it is thrown around

Here is HOOTS MAKER BIO

 
This is my second shop. View my feedback at alaynacreations.etsy.com

I am a stay-at-home mother of two wonderful children, ages 2 and 4.

When my son was about 6 months old, he had a toy giraffe with a knotted string for a tail. He loved playing with the string, and would rub it to help him fall asleep.

He loved it so much, that I thought it would be great to create something for him that had lots of strings for him to play with. So, that is how the Zadyball was born — out of love for my son.

I hope that you and your family will enjoy Zadyball as much as we have. My four-year-old son still won’t sleep without his!

Learn more about me, my family and everything else at http://alaynacreations.blogspot.com

Now be sure to visit these fine shops and don’t forget to answer the question and post about the contest on your blog/site.  Stay tuned tomorrow for another wonderful “made with love” (not China) product!

 

Question for Week 2 – Has you done a random act of kindness in the last year or has someone done one for you?  Please share about it in the comments and don’t forget to link the contest on your blog.

Have a “Zady” Day!