It’s been so sad to not post like I hoped to.  I am still working on the Love Dare with my kids, and I wish I would have done regular updates however it’s been so crazy around here.  I am also doing a study at church on parenting teens (oldest is a pre-teen).  But this study is really for all parents.  Terrific!!!!

One of the thoughts that has struck me while doing both of these things is that, as Christian Parents, we are not to be ‘A’shamed or ‘D’issapointed with our childrens behavior. 

Now here me out if this sounds wrong to you.  God is not disappointed with us.  He disciplines us to get us where he wants us to be but He is never shocked, dissapointed, ashamed, etc!  So if we take on His traits as a Christian, shouldn’t we be the same way?

I always thought that a certain amount of shame, like a Moms look, you know “The Look”, was ok.; we joke about it don’t we?  Really it’s not part of building a child up with unconditional love (agape love).  That doesn’t mean that we won’t discipline a child or let them experience natural consequences, but that there is no shame in screwing up.  And if we all think about it, haven’t we screwed up a time or two ourselves?  So why would we be surprised they do?  Disappointed and shame is just a way of saying I am shocked that you did that cause I never have or would.

Have a “Shockless” Day!

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Today’s “Love Dare” is to purchase a gift.

For those of you catching up, I am doing the “Love Dare”, from Fireproof, on my children rather than my hubby. 

Now buying presents is my specialty so this is ok for me.  I do like buying presents.  I have many on hand.  The trick will be to give no matter what they have done today.  I am sure satan will try to sabotage this so that I won’t want to give them, but I WILL (so take that satan!).

I also have to keep from any negative comments (the first day challenge stays with me).  It’s difficult to teach your children with being negative sometimes.  I just keep practicing.

Have a “Gift Filled” Day!

I was going to MSN and I noticed a headline and clicked on it.  It was about a survery from the Tyra Banks show regarding Teen Girls.  I found it very interesting.  Tyra found it shocking and coming from the modeling industry I think that’s something in and of itself.  Here’s what they found:

Parents, brace yourselves: The survey results are in, and you may not like what they reveal about girls and sex.

More than 10,000 teenage girls and young women took part in an anonymous survey over the summer on TyraShow.com, the Web site of “The Tyra Banks Show.” Survey questions focused on sexuality, sexually transmitted diseases and teen pregnancy, as well as drinking, drugs and violence among females. Here are some findings from the survey:

  • On average, girls are losing their virginity at 15 years of age.
  • 14 percent of teens who are having sex say they’re doing it at school.
  • 52 percent of survey respondents say they do not use protection when having sex.
  • One in three says she fears having a sexually transmitted disease.
  • 24 percent of teens with STDs say they still have unprotected sex.
  • One in five girls says she wants to be a teen mom.
  • About 50 percent acknowledge that they’ve hit someone.
  • One out of three teens has tried drugs.

Well I think that’s very alarming news!  What do you think about it?

Have a “Love your Teen Girl” Day!

Alright, this is it.  The last of my contest before I pick the final winner.  This has been great and I can’t believe all the wonderful prizes that have been up for grabs.  And today’s prize is a great way to end the month. 

Karen over at Surviving Motherhood (great name!) has graciously donated one of her books. 

I have been reading her blog for some time now.  She has a great love for the Lord and humor to boot.  It’s a great read so check it our here:   http://surviving-motherhood.blogspot.com/

Here’s some info about her:

I am a wife, and mother of three. More than that, I am a child of God and am growing in my desire to honor and please Him. I just want to be who He wants me to be, doing what He wants me to do.

Karen Hossink

Author of Confessions of an Irritable Mother

Irritable Mother book cover

So here is what you need to do to win one of her wonderful books:

1) Answer the question below in my comments. One entry is all I need. You DO NOT need to comment everyday to be eligible…just once.

2) POST about my contest on your blog (but not your answer to my question-I am looking for links to my contest for others to particpate too). I will need the direct link on my blog showing the post on your site.

3) That’s it!!!! Just wait to see if you are a winner of a week’s bounty of prizes. Isn’t the EASY????

Question for Week 4 – What ThanksGIVING traditions do you have? Does your family do something special that gives to others for this Holiday?

I will pick the winner tommorow.  The winner will win ALL this weeks prizes.  What a deal!

Have a “Survival” Day!

For those of you who don’t know, I have a child who is adopted and has some emotional/behavioral issues.  Just when we think life is going along..BAM!  This is one of the moments.

( Me) Go into room.  “What is that smell?”

Now this is a problem that we have been dealing with off and on for sometime, along with others, and honestly I try to avoid his room.

Him   ”                                                      ”

SILENCE!  No honest answer to be found.

There was a pee ring on the floor that was as big as a chair.  Apparently he found a corner to pee (hear -saturate) in at night instead of going to the bathroom just a few feet away from HIS ROOM!!!!  Honestly our house in not very big!

The carpet is going to have to be torn out and we will have to paint the concrete.  FUN!  I’ll just fit that in between homeschooling, part time work (although not much anymore), and keeping up on my chores, k?

He has no bed frame as he was stuffing items under it including stolen food (that since rotted).  He has peed and pooped (smeared actually) on the carpet before.  And his bed isn’t smelling too good. 

AUGHH!!!!!  Quit moving that football LUCY!!!!

Can we tear that part of the house down and start all over?

The joys!  The joys!!!

This to shall pass, but when?

Have a “Clean” Day!

Main Entry:
1par·ent
Pronunciation:
\ˈper-ənt\
Function:
noun
Etymology:
Middle English, from Anglo-French, from Latin parent-, parens; akin to Latin parere to give birth to
Date:
15th century

1) One with no particular training to be in charge of another human while not having a clue about themselves.

 

Have you read this book by Dr Kevin Leman? 

I have listened to him via the ParentTalk radio program for many years (not sure why he is no longer on there).  He is funny and practical.  Wish I was a little more of that sometimes.

Mu hubby and I are reading this to , of course, get a new kid by Friday 🙂

So the first day, Monday, starts with thinking about how we respond to our children.

Tuesday was about Attitude, Behavior, and Character (and that means us too..mostly us actually)

Last night was on discovering what type of parent you are:  Authoritarian, Permissive, or  Authoritative.

Authoritarian – One who is big on rules with little to no flexibility.

Permissive – Would be one who wants to be friends with their child and everyday is Disneyland

Authoritative – Is a parent who is a healthy balance between the two.  Fun but has healthy authority over the child.

So where do you fall?

Hey I think this book is more about changing me then my child 🙂

Have an “Authoritative” Day!

Here is his website for all his wonderful resources : http://www.lemanbooksandvideos.com/store/